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Day 557: Who needs it? I do.

I never understood the point of huge “master suites” in otherwise normal houses. Toronto real estate is expensive; why would you waste so much of it on a sitting area when you already have a living room and a family room, and maybe a rec room? Mr. December agreed with me, so when we designed our house we made our bedroom big enough for a king-size bed and some bedside tables. When she suggested that it was too small, our architect was outvoted.

For the most part, I’ve been happy with our decision: the bedroom does what we need it to do, our bathroom is the right size for the way we use it, and we’ve got plenty of storage in our closet. Sometimes, though, I start to wish I’d designed a whole big suite just for the two of us.

I didn’t feel the need for so much private space when the kids were little (probably because they went to bed long before us and I had time and space to myself anywhere I wanted it.) These days, however, there’s always someone awake until I go to bed, and the same kids who mostly ignore me during the day always need to talk to me after bedtime.

Mr. December just came out of someone’s room and asked if we could maybe go to sleep earlier tonight. Instead of a very reasonable, “Sure, I’m just finishing up my blog post,” I unleashed my exasperation on him: “Oh my God, seriously, can everybody just stop talking to me for, like, five minutes so I can finish a sentence?!?!?”

It’s becoming very clear that I need an office with a door. Or a giant suite to which I can retreat at nine p.m. after proclaiming that I’m done for the night. Until then I’ll be right here, practicing my relaxation techniques so my cortisol level doesn’t spike every time I hear someone talking to me after bedtime.

2 thoughts on “Day 557: Who needs it? I do.

  1. SOmeitmes I miss being a vital and important member of a community. Thank you for the reminder that all life stages have pros AND cons. Maybe you could make it a group topic of how to let mom have silent time after the formal bedtime….. for at least 20 minutes. Right now however I shall smile that Mr. D likes you both to go to bed together…….. That is very special. You both are lucky.

  2. Our house has a ridiculously huge master bedroom (we seriously considered putting an air hockey table or ping pong table in there, as well as our bed…). I was always a bit annoyed at the waste of good space, until the pandemic hit and it got repurposed as my husbands home office and I got to keep our actual office for myself. Good to know it’ll also be handy as a parental retreat in a few years when our kids are older 🙂

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